Thanks for commenting. I’m glad to hear this resonated. I think a lot of autistic people struggle within neurotypical gender roles. I just find the whole concept ridiculous because throughout history and geographically what is feminine of masculine changes or in fact switches. I wish we had more space for everyone to safely express themselves.
Thank you Zoe. I resonate with all of this. There are so many layers to it and it's all tangled up and interconnected. For me this feels like another layer of unmasking. When I hear nonbinary people tell their stories it is the same feeling I have in community with autistic people. There's such a spectrum of individuality, but there is also a shared experience there. Celebrating your queerness as well! You are you no matter who you are in relationship with. 💫🏳️🌈
Wow, thanks for articulating this, Zoe. I just wrote a comment saying I've also been thinking a lot about the intersection of my queerness and definite (but undiagnosed) neurodivergence, and I hadn't even thought about what you're saying here re: the sensory aspect.
DEFINITELY, that has affected my choice in clothing, which in turn is an absolutely distinct part of how I regulate and understand my own gender, as well as how I know others usually believe I present.
The latter aspect, I also so agree with, and surprisingly, it's a fact I feel I've been at so much peace with most of my life. We feel so much and we therefore can't help but be so colorful. It's always seemed like, in a great night sky, where the stars are twinkling but relatively uniform, I simply can't help but be some sparkly, dazzling supernova when I very usually and naturally tend to be. I see I'm different, stick out so much, but for all the OTHER doubts and fears, it is clear (and therefore peaceful) that this is who I am.
So lovely to read your thoughts here. Lots to chew on for me. Thank you :)
Thank you so much for sharing this, Sarah! 🧡 🌈 All your "what if" questions are a beautiful approach to a world where we can all be whatever we are, together--even if we're all different to each other. I support you and I love you and I'm here for every minute of you being authentically yourself. ✨
🌈🥳Congratulations, and thank you for trusting us with this part of you! To anybody that tries to challenge any parts of how you identify (ie nonbinary but also as a mother) – the way my (cis) brain sees it is that this is YOUR identity and therefore YOU get to define what that means for you.
I hope that those who are important to you are loving and supportive, and that those who are not important to you are either loving and supportive or have the decency keep their mouths shut about something that does not affect them. ♥
I love the way you weave your boundaries into your invitations. Totally support you not taking questions and letting people know they can exit with out announcing it. I for one feel even more motivated to stay! Thank you for being you and sharing what feels comfortable to share as you go! ✨🌈✨
Hooray! You’re awesome Sarah. I agree that the assumptions society makes about gender and sexuality can be exhausting. Thanks for sharing and happy coming out!!! 🎉 🌈
Yes. I’m here for it. 🙌🏼🔥😍🏳️🌈 Thank you for sharing this, especially the way you did, and trusting us. I want to create, support and live in a world where all this is possible. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Sarah, thank you for showing the rest of us how to do hard things. Stepping into your courage and allowing your vulnerability to sit in the front seat by writing this post. In doing so you empower the rest of us to take a good hard look at ourselves.
Thanks for commenting. I’m glad to hear this resonated. I think a lot of autistic people struggle within neurotypical gender roles. I just find the whole concept ridiculous because throughout history and geographically what is feminine of masculine changes or in fact switches. I wish we had more space for everyone to safely express themselves.
Thank you Zoe. I resonate with all of this. There are so many layers to it and it's all tangled up and interconnected. For me this feels like another layer of unmasking. When I hear nonbinary people tell their stories it is the same feeling I have in community with autistic people. There's such a spectrum of individuality, but there is also a shared experience there. Celebrating your queerness as well! You are you no matter who you are in relationship with. 💫🏳️🌈
Wow, thanks for articulating this, Zoe. I just wrote a comment saying I've also been thinking a lot about the intersection of my queerness and definite (but undiagnosed) neurodivergence, and I hadn't even thought about what you're saying here re: the sensory aspect.
DEFINITELY, that has affected my choice in clothing, which in turn is an absolutely distinct part of how I regulate and understand my own gender, as well as how I know others usually believe I present.
The latter aspect, I also so agree with, and surprisingly, it's a fact I feel I've been at so much peace with most of my life. We feel so much and we therefore can't help but be so colorful. It's always seemed like, in a great night sky, where the stars are twinkling but relatively uniform, I simply can't help but be some sparkly, dazzling supernova when I very usually and naturally tend to be. I see I'm different, stick out so much, but for all the OTHER doubts and fears, it is clear (and therefore peaceful) that this is who I am.
So lovely to read your thoughts here. Lots to chew on for me. Thank you :)
Thank you Jen! 💫
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Thank you Rebecca. ❤️
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Thanks for the rainbows Amber. 🌈
Thank you so much for sharing this, Sarah! 🧡 🌈 All your "what if" questions are a beautiful approach to a world where we can all be whatever we are, together--even if we're all different to each other. I support you and I love you and I'm here for every minute of you being authentically yourself. ✨
Thank you Gracie. ✨🌈💫
🌈🥳Congratulations, and thank you for trusting us with this part of you! To anybody that tries to challenge any parts of how you identify (ie nonbinary but also as a mother) – the way my (cis) brain sees it is that this is YOUR identity and therefore YOU get to define what that means for you.
I hope that those who are important to you are loving and supportive, and that those who are not important to you are either loving and supportive or have the decency keep their mouths shut about something that does not affect them. ♥
Thank you Melissa. I too hope that. I'm experiencing lots of support so far. ❤️
Just dropping some love into this thread. 💕💕💕🌈🌈🌈💕💕💕💫
Thank you Tzivia! 🥰
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Thank you Charlie! 🥰
Thank you for sharing, Sarah! I have admired you for a long time and that continues today. I’m honored to witness your evolution.
Thank you Emily! ❤️
Love this post 💕 🌈
Thank you Ayleigh! ✨
I love the way you weave your boundaries into your invitations. Totally support you not taking questions and letting people know they can exit with out announcing it. I for one feel even more motivated to stay! Thank you for being you and sharing what feels comfortable to share as you go! ✨🌈✨
Thank you Carmina! 🥰
Hooray! You’re awesome Sarah. I agree that the assumptions society makes about gender and sexuality can be exhausting. Thanks for sharing and happy coming out!!! 🎉 🌈
Thank you Dylan! ❤️
Yes. I’m here for it. 🙌🏼🔥😍🏳️🌈 Thank you for sharing this, especially the way you did, and trusting us. I want to create, support and live in a world where all this is possible. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you Jessica! 🥰
Sarah, thank you for showing the rest of us how to do hard things. Stepping into your courage and allowing your vulnerability to sit in the front seat by writing this post. In doing so you empower the rest of us to take a good hard look at ourselves.
Sending love🌈❤
Thank you Donna! 💫
🌈🌈🤍🥳 thank you for trusting us with this post, Sarah! You have my full support 🥰
Thank you Sophie! ❤️