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Jun 29, 2023Liked by Sarah Shotts (they/them)

Thank you so much for this post, Sarah. I have struggled with phone calls all my life but always felt I have to just do them but this makes me see that I am allowed to set a boundary there, along with others.

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Yes! Reframing the parts of me I had considered to be character flaws as neurodivergence has been so powerful! Setting those boundaries saves so much energy that I can channel into other things! 💫

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Jun 29, 2023Liked by Sarah Shotts (they/them)

Im so glad you decided to share these again "in case you missed it". I missed it because I wasn't yet a subscriber. I resonate so much with this. I have had to create big boundaries with my extended family. I happen to be leaving today to visit them again after a year. This post is so helpful to me. Although I do not have a diagnosis, I am highly sensitive and resonate with many autistic and adhd traits. Deconstructing and accepting myself as neurodivergent has been a pathway for me out of depression and anxiety and constant overwhelm. As I hold my needs and my boundaries at priority, my life experience has been much less traumatic. I am a big fan of you. Thank you. I hope you take the time you need to the max and look forward to hearing from you as your feel inclined to share your insights here.

In reverence,

Rae

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Thanks for sharing Rae. Seeing our brains through the lens of neurodivergence is so powerful! I'm so glad you're here. 🥰

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Jun 29, 2023Liked by Sarah Shotts (they/them)

Enjoyed this and boundaries with family are the hardest ones of all I feel. There's so much unspoken obligation, thanks for signposting your approach.

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Yes, and every family's expectations are different! It's a lot to navigate. 😵‍💫

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Jul 3, 2023Liked by Sarah Shotts (they/them)

In the UK we have a service called Relay. It’s an app on your phone that you can activate when receiving or making a phone call. It connects to a call centre where you type and a real person speaks for you. They also type out what the person on the other end says too. I think it was originally set up for Deaf people, but I find it very useful.

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Amazing! Thanks for sharing Catherine. I will do some looking and see if we have anything similar.

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I love the idea that we don't have to fully educate everyone to get our needs met.

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